KINDNESS: THE REAL SHEKELS

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When we say, “That person is kind,” what do we really mean?

We’re not just talking about someone who donates to charity, or helps the elderly cross the road.

Often, we say it when someone speaks to us in a way that makes us feel safe, seen, and respected.

Because kindness more than anything, is a language.

Kindness Isn’t Just Action. It’s How You Speak.

We often underestimate how powerful everyday conversations are.

The way someone talks to you  their tone, their pauses, their choice of words can feel like:

A hug, 

A shove, 

Or a slap you never saw coming. 

That’s why you might meet someone for just 5 minutes and walk away thinking, “Wow, they were so kind.”

It wasn’t just their face or body language.

It was their voice  how they made you feel with it.

 “Language Has Its Own Temperature…”

In a Korean drama I once watched, there was a line I’ll never forget:

 “Language has its own temperature. The speaker may find it refreshing, but the listener suffers burns.”

Read that again.

That one sentence says everything about the emotional violence that words can carry.

What sounds casual or honest to you, might be cutting someone else to the core.

Words Are Weapons or Medicine

Every word we speak is like an arrow.

Once it leaves our mouth, we can’t pull it back.

You might say something in anger, then forget it.

But the person who heard it might replay it for weeks, carving it into their heart.

That’s why the phrase “Think before you speak” isn’t just a polite suggestion it’s survival advice for relationships, workplaces, and peace of mind.

Choose Calmness. Choose Care.

Kindness lives in:

The gentle way you disagree, 

The pause before a harsh reply, 

The effort you make to not just be right  but to be respectful. 

You don’t have to be poetic or eloquent to be kind.

You just have to be aware that your words land somewhere in someone’s body, in someone’s mind, in someone’s day.


So next time you meet someone and think, “They’re so kind,” ask yourself, What did they say that made you feel that way?

Chances are, it wasn’t their achievements or their smile.

It was how they made you feel through their words.

And that’s where real kindness begins.












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